Choosing how to spend time…..
I don’t ever remember feeling like I had extra time at home. It may have been self-imposed, but for many of us our jobs and careers take over and any extra time is spent growing and developing skills and knowledge in our chosen area. I have many passions and my previous work in hospice was definitely one of them. So, any extra time was spent connected to that – extra courses, reading, conferences, anything and everything related I sought it out and soaked it all in. Over the course of this year I have had an opportunity to direct that time and energy other places. (Okay, full disclosure….I am still reading hospice and healthcare articles….but not as much.) I am spending more time on my yoga practice, Sanskrit, reading fiction and spiritual books, writing, exercising, cooking, and “games”.
I have found that minutes can turn into hours before you know it. I am learning and constantly practicing how to choose what and where I direct my energy rather than letting the unconscious mind lead me around. Not letting the urge to check unread messages overtake me. I am guessing this is a universal challenge and you don’t have to quit your job and travel for a year to recognize this! I am working on stabilizing these patterns and habits, so when we return home, the more challenging practice of maintaining awareness of consciously choosing what and where I direct my energy then can be maintained. What an adventure and learning experience I am having!
David is teaching me chess. It’s kind of complicated and slow going. Have not really gotten too far in that.
An interesting “game” we have been playing is asking each other questions. I shouldn’t really call it a game because for one, David hates games, and for two it’s more like a practice in listening. It was all prompted by an article I read in Huffington Post. It was 36 questions to ask your partner. It was thoughtful, deep, and pretty funny at times. We actually learned some new things about one another. I encourage you to try it out with your partner or a friend.
#8 was kind of fun: Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
Here are our answers, which created a nice list.
1. Interest in spiritual development
3. Love of travel
5. Love of music
So then that got us on a little practice to regularly ask and listen. It seems simple and maybe boring to some, but for me it was just one more way to practice being present in the moment, truly listening, learning, and connecting.